Back in the good old days, a person generally knew what life they were likely to lead. You chose a career based on your family expectations, married (even if you were secretly gay) and lived a routine life until retirement or the children left the nest. Then you volunteered for a community organisation or took up gardening or filled your time playing pool with friends in the pub. It was all very straightforward. Only a few eccentric people stepped off these well-trodden paths.
Not so today. There are no longer any of the old paths to rely upon. Nothing can be taken for granted. Plans and expectations can be swept away on the whim of a virus or a climate change catastrophe, or the unexpected death of an important relationship. Everyone is confronted with having to rely upon themselves for their choices and directions in this brave new world.
We are on an adventure into unknown terrain in which we are all pioneers.
However, making decisions about what to do and where to go amid pressure and chaos is very difficult. The stress of uncertainty can lead to rash decisions or it makes a person mentally and emotionally rigid. Without viable, flexible solutions, matters get even worse and anxiety rachets up to unbearable levels.
So, what can one do? How can you make choices that will begin to restore your sense of stability and safety?
There is one infallible Siramarti solution. This is to decide what essence of life you want, and then create an experience of that essence every single day. This simple focus means that at least some of your day’s activities can be relied upon to be comfortable in the way you want it to be. And gradually, step by step, the positive essence you seek becomes a certain path.
Suppose the essence you seek is a life of minimal anxiety? Take a step today to bring about a sense of inner peace: maybe you might sit in the local park for half an hour enjoying nature? Take a second but different step tomorrow that will also bring calm: tidy up that mess in the cupboard that is quietly nagging at you. On the third day let go of a negative assumption about your situation that is creating anxiety. The Good Work Book: How to enjoy your job & make it spiritually fulfilling has a powerful visualisation for Changing a Mental Belief that will be helpful there. (See our Store for Amazon link).
Maybe, like one of my clients, you believe that you have no belief at all that you can make daily life successful. In her case, I suggested that she make a list of at least one achievement in the areas she was concerned about - parenting and daily management - each day. Within a fortnight her confidence had risen immeasurably. And her list had grown from one a day to five or six. Try it out for yourself.
Of course, you want a lot more than one essence to feel your life is enjoyable and secure, but the same principle applies. Take small steps consistently towards each of your ends: stress relief, comfort, financial security, better health, freedom to enjoy your own time, or harmonious relationships, etc.
Small steps are the key to success because they entirely within your control. They provide the psychological stability and sense of being in charge amid the chaos of the present and an unknown future. However, If you bite off more than you can chew, your decision will, like one of those famous New Year’s resolutions, die a sad and early death.
Developing a habit of consciously experiencing what you want on a daily basis has effects far beyond the sense of being in charge. It creates profound changes your energetic resonance which benefits you in mysterious ways. People who interview the calm person for a job senses their reliability. Inner calm helps you to find smart ways to earn or conserve money. Your body, enjoying the physiological benefits of a relaxed attitude, is able to re-balance to allow for healing of disease.
Suddenly you feel that you are living in an oasis of safety and security no matter the turmoil around you.
Copyright 2021 Siramarti Publishing Pty Ltd
Author: Suzie St George
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